No matter how old you are, where you live, or the job you have, where your focus goes, your energy flows. Why? Because what you feel will always determine what you do.

Last month I, along with my hubby Brendan had the opportunity of heading up to Sydney to spend 4 incredible days at Unleash the Power Within (UPW), a conference created by world-renowned coach, speaker and entrepreneur, Tony Robbins. Since returning from UPW, one of the most common questions I get asked is, “So what was the conference like? What did you learn?”.

UPW was amazing in so many ways. So what was it like? And what did I learn? Here’s some of my favourite takeaways from the event.

This conference was seriously like no other – it featured long days, and by long I mean 8am to 10pm with no break. But let me tell you, it didn’t bother me at all as I had a blast. It was essentially a mix between a motivational seminar and music festival. All 7,500 of us danced, laughed, cried, screamed, journaled, sung and made new friends. It was the best experience and as Tony puts it, UPW is ‘where the impossible becomes possible’ – and in many ways that’s exactly what happened.’

The 4 days were divided into 4 parts: Day 1 was all about turning your ‘fear’ into your ‘power’. Day 2 was centred around the power of success conditioning. In Day 3 we implemented what we learnt from the first 2 days and made a commitment to transform our lives and finally on Day 4 we learnt Tony’s 12 master principles of a vital life.

As a Life Coach and Educator for young women and girls, I attended UPW not only for my own personal development, but also so I could pass on my learnings and new discoveries with my clients, and boy do I have a lot to share! Here’s just a taste of some of the biggest life lessons Tony and his team shared with us all…

Creating Change

You have to first influence yourself before influencing another human being. Start with YOU. And when reflecting on your past and where you want to be, note that your biography does not equal your destiny unless you choose to live there.

There are two forces that influence our decisions: Firstly, it’s the state we’re in now (moment to moment). The second is our blueprint (which is long term). Our blueprint is made up of our beliefs and patterns. So the biggest question we can ask ourselves is: ‘Is my blueprint out of date?’

Want to step forward and create lasting change? You can! You just need to consciously stress the muscle beyond your comfort zone, and don’t give up when life gets tough. And when moving forward, make sure you track your progress for you can’t manage what you can’t measure.

The 3 beliefs that form lasting change are (1) This MUST change NOW. (2) I MUST change NOW. (3) And I CAN change NOW. Turn your ‘should’ into your ‘must’ and you will change your life. Only when you’re 100% motivated and driven can you change your life. It’s NOT willpower, it’s DO power.

Relationships

Want more joy? Want to know the key to living an extraordinary life? Grow and give.

You need to give joy to feel more joy. The way you treat people is a direct reflection on what’s going on inside your head and your mindset. Move your emotional home or get an upgrade. It’s as simple as that.

When speaking with people, avoid soft words like “good.” Get real! Be authentic. Be you. Don’t hide behind a mask.

Gratitude

At the start of this post I said, ‘Where your focus goes, your energy flows’. So what do you focus on? Do you focus on what you have or what’s missing? Do you focus on what you can or can’t control? Do you focus on the past, present or future?

Freedom and fulfilment comes when you turn your loss into gain. Life is happening FOR us and not TO us. It’s as simple as that. Our belief can change it all. Sometimes NOT getting what you want is the best thing that can happen FOR you.

When you choose to change your story, you change your life. So what’s your new story? Decide to be the fearless leader in your own life because your attitude determines your altitude! Your values determine your direction.

Life changes when you turn your WORST day into your BEST day! And this is what I speak about all the time on my social media, particularly when I ran my weekly IGTV show, Gratitude With Gianna. It’s amazing what happens when we decide to be grateful for what we already have, instead of simply yearning for what we do not possess. When we start appreciating the world around us, we in turn invite even more joy. It’s just the way it is. And who wouldn’t want that hey?!

So that’s my summary of what I learnt from attending Unleash The Power Within last month. Of course I have loads more to say but that will have to be for another time.

PS. Would you love to live a confident and fulfilling life? Would you love to learn more about what it means to pursue your potential? Well then you may like to work with me for 6 weeks, as I’ll support you to do just this and so much more. I run two coaching programs – 1:1 Coaching and the other is my 6-week small group coaching program called Coaching Club. To find out more, head here. Looking forward to hearing from you!